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22nd march 2023

The Dark Side of Smartphones: Reclaim Your Life and Rediscover True Connection


We live in a digital age where smartphones are an essential part of our daily lives. While they have undeniably made our lives easier, these devices can become an addictive force that disconnects us from our humanity. Renowned Jungian psychologist and addiction expert Carder Stout, PhD, addresses this issue in his latest book, We Are All Addicts. Stout suggests that any fixation that disconnects us from our innate humanity can be considered an addiction, including our smartphones.

Do you find yourself with your phone in your hand by default, compulsively checking notifications, or struggling to concentrate in social situations? If so, you might be a smartphone addict. But don't despair, Stout offers practical solutions to regain control and start your journey towards digital sobriety.

Small steps, like powering down your phone during specific hours or limiting the use of certain features, can create a positive change in your life. For instance, Stout recommends using a device like the Light Phone, which allows essential functions such as calling, texting, and navigation without the distractions of social media, email, or an internet browser.

In his book, Stout recounts how he enforces a rule in his therapy office that requires patients to power down their phones before entering. While some patients find relief in disconnecting, others experience anxiety and are dishonest about turning off their phones. This behavior highlights our growing dependence on smartphones and raises questions about its impact on our overall well-being.

Stout also shares his personal practice of going phone-free between 7:00 p.m. and 7:00 a.m., enabling him to focus on nurturing relationships with his family. This ritual, inspired by a pre-smartphone era, has significantly improved his relationships and fostered a healthier home environment. The key takeaway here is that disconnecting from our phones can lead to more authentic and fulfilling experiences.

The soul, as Stout explains, seeks to expand human experiences, not contract them. Smartphones, driven by ego, impede our innate desire to connect with one another and influence how we perceive the people in our lives. Our soul, on the other hand, guides us towards alternatives to our ego-driven pursuits, helping us restore happiness and love in our lives.

So, how can we break free from our smartphone addiction and rekindle our connection to our soul? Here are some practical tips to help you on your journey:

  1. Put your smartphone away when not in use.
  2. Switch to airplane mode when in social situations.
  3. Turn off notifications or leave your phone on silent.
  4. Dedicate specific hours of the day to being phone-free.
  5. Focus on cultivating human relationships through direct experiences.
  6. Find a hobby or activity that does not involve your smartphone.
  7. Practice mindfulness to help you become more present in the moment.

Remember, small daily changes can make a significant difference in your life. By consciously making an effort to disconnect from your smartphone, you can foster healthier relationships, improve your mental well-being, and rediscover the true essence of human connection.

In conclusion, while smartphones undoubtedly offer countless benefits, it's crucial to recognize their potential for addiction and the negative impact they can have on our lives. By taking control of our smartphone usage and nurturing our relationships, we can reclaim our lives, reconnect with our souls, and rediscover the joy of true human connection. After all, as Stout so eloquently states, "the soul cherishes freedom, while the ego is seduced by entanglement."